Our two year anniversary...

James and I have officially been married for two years. Our lives are so much different now than when we first got married. Since we got married, we have bought a house, added a cat...and had our son. We never thought that we would have a child at this point, but it is the most wonderful blessing. There are absolutely no words to describe how much a child can change your life for the BETTER. I have no idea how any parent would not want to spend every waking moment with their child. Anyway, I was so excited because this year, James not only listened to one of my hints-but TWO! He got me a James Avery Mother's Love pendant and a beautiful chain from Zales. I don't have a picture of that, but he also got me a Willow Tree called "Our Gift." I really love them and the only one who ever buys them for me is my Aunt Darcy. I mentioned to him that I really liked them, so he got this one for me.

My gift to James was a family gift-a three man tent that we can take anywhere with us. It is compact enough to carry, but BIG enough for ME!! I really think it will fit more like 4 people, but here's to new Killian family adventures!

James set it up in the living room to check it out!

Our beautiful son

There are no words to describe how much I love our son. I think to put it into words, you would have to compare God's love for all his children to my love for Connor.

The first two weeks after delivering, I truly missed having Connor all to myself. I remember the first time I took a bath and I seriously felt lonely. James never really knew this, but my bath time (that I got yelled at for because our water bill was through the roof for a few months) was my time for just me and Connor. That is when I would talk to him, sing to him, or just trace my fingers across my belly to see if he would kick. He usually did :) It is just weird that for nine whole months, he is always with you. You can go anywhere and he is there. So, there was a lot of jealousy during those first few weeks when EVERYONE and their mother wanted to have him.

As it gets closer (only a few more days) to my time to go back to work, I am a bit anxious and nervous to take Connor to daycare. I feel somewhat guilty that I'm excited to work again. I have really loved every minute of being home, but just don't feel at this time that being home is for me yet. I think I will need the next year to make an actual decision. I guess I felt like God would have this booming voice after I delivered giving me a decision...but....here I stand. Still on the fence. And, I feel guilty for not really being all that concerned about actually making a decision either. A lot of people want to ask what I'm going to do and my response is "what I'm doing already." Is that so wrong? People that know me really well know not to ask, because there is no point in discussing it. I truly love being an Air Force officer and feel that I have been led there by God. He has also led me to be a mother, which means for now, I get the opportunity to do both.

So, to second on Brooke's quest to PRAY BIG, I will be praying for an answer and that whatever God throws in our way, it's for the best for our family. The big prayer would be for the A-10 or F-15E for James. Either one would give me the answer I am looking for and either plane would be OK with James. You see, if he gets either, I could remain on active duty and keep our family together. If he doesn't get either, I will be hanging up the boots and trading them in for house slippers....I will say it's been nice being barefoot for 7 weeks =)

I do thank God for all the wonderful firsts I have gotten to see while I have been home. I have watched him grow from a 7 lb baby into almost 10 lbs and can roll over! Yes folks, he smiles and ROLLS over! What an advanced, strong little boy.

Giving Birth

Okay, so it has been over a month and I am finally ready to relive the torture we call the "miracle of birth." It's not so much torture, but a true labor of love. So the story goes...

I woke up at 7:00 a.m. on February 18, 2009 and got ready for work. I had been going in at 9, so needless to say this was a bit early for my normal routine. I was having some tightening in my stomach about every 30 minutes, but didn't think anything of it because I had been having Braxton Hicks for a few weeks. So, I went to work and lasted until 11:45...I was running around and everyone in the office was scared. I guess I was acting funny! Stopping every now and then with these cramps and then going about my normal business.

Once I got home, I took a bath (which is not part of the normal routine) which made me feel so much better. I was having these cramps about every 30 minutes and then had bloody show at about 3:30. I text messaged James and he came running home-

Once James got home from work we put together the stroller and went for a walk at 5:30. After that walk the contractions started coming harder and faster and eventually got to 5 minutes apart by 8:30 p.m. I was hesitant to call my mom, but James went ahead and called her and she started driving. (You see, I was still in denial and NOT ready for labor).

 

 

We decided to go to the hospital at 9:30 p.m. So, we got loaded up and headed out. Once there in triage they told me I was still only 2 c.m. dialated and 80 % effaced. They sent me home with an Ambien becasue they thought I was in pre-labor. Stupidly, I took the Ambien which made me go crazy becasue there was no way I was sleeping that night! The contractions got really difficult when we got home and I was trying to rest while contracting every three minutes. Poor James was trying to sleep with me laying down and getting up every three minutes!

 

 

I spent most of this time inbetween the bed and the toilet. For some reason, sitting on the toilet was very comforting. Luckily, it was a smart move! My water broke at 2:30 a.m. at home on the toilet. Awesome! My mom literally pulled into the driveway five minutes after it happened. Once she got there, we got back in the car and drove to the hospital...AGAIN! When we got there I started begging for the epidural....seriously...that was a lot of pain that I was not ready for. I really wanted to avoid it, but they would not let me have any other medication because I had dialated to a SEVEN! I really did most of my labor at home, which was part of my method-I just didn't expect to need something so desperately. The Ambien really clouded my ability to concentrate and focus through each contraction and I needed something that would let me sleep.

 

 

So, the first thing we did in the hospital was get the epidural. I dialated to a 10 quickly and started pushing at 5ish. Connor never dropped so when I started pushing he was at a +2 station (you are supposed to be at 0 or in the negatives when you start pushing). So, I was in for the long haul! I pushed for about two hours when my doctor came in and threatened the c-section. I begged him to let me continue pushing-I knew I could do it and was going to be serisouly disappointed if my epidural led to a c-section. So, by the time I was done, I had five L&D nurses (plus the head nurse) in the room coaching me and encouraging me along.

 

 

We finally got Connor into my pelvis where he was stuck because along with not having dropped, he never rotated. So, Dr. Jones whipped out the forceps, not so gently placed them into my pelvis and out he came! I think I screamed through one of the pushes and Dr. Jones had to yell at me to stop. I was not expecting him to come out as fast as he did and actually thought they were going to wheel me down to the O.R. after five minutes. But, he arrived at 8:35 a.m. on February 19, 2009. Here are a few pics of the process...

James with Connor

Connor's first picture

After the epidural...sleep it was for me!

Believing in Jesus

So, I am currently going through the Beth Moore study at Fairway called "Believing in God." I have had many family members ask how we can truly know that Jesus is alive and how it is possible to believe in something you can not see. Let's take a look at the MIRACLE of childbirth. (it is a miracle-not science or biology, a true miracle).


When you look at the MIRACLE of childbirth, there are so many factors to consider.

1) It takes a man and a woman that are both able to conceive. Some people never find either and some never find a partner period. I find that James finding me is the first miracle in this whole process.
2) It takes one sperm to pick one egg to fertilize. Just think about how many thousands-no millions-of tiny sperm die in the process. What scientific fact is there that can tell me why that ONE sperm picked that ONE egg? There is no explanation.
3) The baby grows inside of the woman for ten months. Some babies do not make it past eight weeks and some do not make it through birth.
4) Labor induction: it is once again a God thing and is unexplainable why labor starts when it does. The baby basically sends a chemical message out saying "get me out of here" and the mom's body picks up on it and BAM: labor begins.
5) The last and final miracle of it all. How did the baby's head not harden with the rest of the bones? It did this so it could fit through the birth canal. Just watch or view pictures of a baby going through the birth canal and you will see how truly miraculous it is that it knows just how to place his head and turn it's shoulders to exit the mom's body and enter the world.

Pastor Brett has been constantly challenging us each week with more and more powerful messages. One thing that sticks out in mind is how statement of "How many people in your life do you know are going to Hell because they do not know Jesus?" It is a tough question to look at, but if I believe in the Bible, I have to also believe that what it says is true: there is no other way to Heaven or to God, but through JESUS, His son.

I have made it a new mission of mine to constantly pray and minister to those around me who I love and care for. I know there are some that this may drive crazy, but I will continue to show you the love that I know until the day that I die knowing that I did all I could do to bring you back to Christ.

AMEN.

Cabinets

So, the saying is that there is no rushing perfection...or James! We have been working to sand down and stain our cabinets for months now. I am posting pictures of the middle product. We finished sanding over the Christmas break and now James is working to stain everything, which I have to admit, does take longer than I expected. You see, if you are doing two coats on each door and on the inside and outside of the door-that's at least four days right there just for drying time. Who knew? The color is going to be beautiful. All James has left to do is to hang the new crown molding, apply a clear coat, and stain the top of the cabinets! Go James!!

Here he is!

Okay, so for those lucky enough to be reading the blog, here are the most current belly shots. Our camera broke at Thanksgiving and these were the first pictures I took after I dug out my old digital camera. (I haven't used it since our Honeymoon-that's how old). At Christmas Aunt Darcy gave me a lecture on only gaining 25 pounds, but honestly, I blew past that eight weeks ago...also my Big Guy said to me "You can't get much bigger than that" and Gammy kept repeating "He could come early, he's a good size" and I was so frustrated becasue I honestly don't feel that big at all. Looking at these pictures, though, I now know what they're talking about!!

Courtney 32 Weeks

Courtney 34 Weeks (New Year's Eve)

Some commonly asked questions to me are:

When are you due?
What's the sex? What's the name?
Are you going to stay working?
Can I touch your belly?

For one, if you are a complete stranger, all of these questions are completely invasive, private and frankly, none of your business. My family and close friends should know all of the answers to these, so I get really frustrated especially when we get to the part about me working or not. So, to answer all of the above: I am due on Feb 19 (according to the Dr), it's a boy, his name is Connor James, I will stay working at least until December 2010 at which point, I trust God will point me in the right direction, and NO YOU CAN NOT TOUCH MY BELLY!!!

Other news on the pregnancy front that I want to remember is that I LOVE Mexican food, spinach salad with dried cranberries, walnuts and blue cheese, any type of juice, my night time bath, trying to pry James' hands off of me (which is getting harder and harder by the day), and feeling my son roll around in my belly. I swear I am going to have bruised ribs when he comes out. My hands have started swelling on long walks and my feet are staying swollen, so I can't wait to remember what it feels like to have normal ankles again.

I have gained close to 40 pounds now and definately know what I am going to do different next time around. No first trimester gain (I still blame it on our cruise). So, that is all for now, enjoy my hugeness!!

Sammy says "Hurry up Connor!"

Christmas was great. It was definately an experience. Ashley graduated (!!!!!!!!!!), Chase got engaged, and well....there are a ton more things, but you know....I only have so much time to write!

We got lots of fun toys and clothes for Connor. Sammy is not sure what to do about all the changes going on in the house. Gammy bought this rocking panda bear and we put Sammy on there to "test it out" and it actaually sat there for a photo op. I'd say I am officially ready to become a mom. GET THIS THING OUT OF ME! I haven't loved being pregnant, but it hasn't been terrible. It is a means to an excellent end. Here are some pictures of his crib that James put together today!